In this article, I will discuss with you eight reasons to learn how to better combine your clothes and accessories. Then, I will explain my method for composing your looks, illustrated by short videos of concrete outfit composition examples. I will also talk about the things you need to keep in mind for this to succeed. And then, the cherry on top to achieve this as best as possible: your intuition. Finally, I will end by giving you a personal tip to strengthen the image you project to others and to yourself, which is how to manage others’ opinions. This often influences our clothing choices much more than we think.
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How to harmonize my outfits?
This question everyone can answer in a basic way. I mean, we all have established reflexes over time, a way of mixing materials, colors, and styles without thinking too much, in a fairly simple manner, especially when we are sure that it coordinates perfectly and suits us!
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Result?
Most of us settle into habits, dare not step outside of what we are sure of, and prefer the comfort of certainty to avoid mistakes… That’s normal.
I want to tell you today: Go ahead, step out of your habits, try new combinations, be bold, step out of your comfort zone, assert your beautiful personality through mixes of genres, colors, and styles that reflect you. Let yourself be inspired by what’s around you, TV, magazines,…
1/Eight reasons to learn how to better combine your clothes and accessories
If you are more creative, if you challenge yourself to push the limits of your wardrobe, if you combine your existing clothes and accessories in innovative ways:
You will see your wardrobe in a new light.
For example, do you always wear that leather jacket with the same pants? If you realize that it can match with other tops and bottoms, in an infinite number of possibilities, you will see it differently! It will become your ally, instead of being just any jacket without conviction. This lack of conviction affects the perception you and others have of your image.
Your posture, your walk, your self-image will change, positively.
The consequences will be direct on your self-confidence!
You will no longer want to wear the same thing.
No, the syndrome of nothing to wear. Yes!
You will feel like your wardrobe has many more clothes, it’s not a luxury when you think about it.
You will want to buy less often and you can allocate your budget to learn even better how to use what you already own or other things that matter to you. This is the feedback I receive after each session: learning to go further in combinations among many other things ultimately saves a lot (time and money)😉.
More ideas and creativity.
It’s a virtuous circle, it generates even more ideas. In some cases, you may even become a reference for those around you.
This will seriously consolidate your self-confidence and perhaps lead you to unexpected places: a promotion, a meeting, a happy event. Because I am convinced that when things are good and done with heart, the rest follows naturally.
You will (re)find pleasure in wearing your clothes that will seem new because shaped differently. (Great, then!)
2/My method for composing unique outfits that reflect you
For 4 years on Plug RTL (soon new TV projects… stay tuned…), in almost every show, I use one of two methods:
I leave a “statement piece.”
Illustration in this video:
What is a statement piece?
It is a garment or accessory that gives style and character to your outfit by itself. For example: blue jeans with floral embroidery of any color, a printed jumpsuit with graphic designs in black and white, a sweater with a very original cut and an inspiring color, a blouse with a fantasy that “takes up space,” like a ruffle.
How to choose a statement piece?
You choose this statement piece based on your tastes, your context, your dress codes, your constraints, the weather, your desires and your mood, your goals, and your intuition.
Example:
Do you want to wear that colorful floral sweater that defines you and matches your mood for the day? You take this sweater as a starting point because it corresponds to the forecasted weather and you don’t want to be cold. Then think about the other imperatives of your day! Imagine a day at the office (the dress codes of your company are not too strict, but you are required to maintain elegance and a certain sobriety) and a dinner with friends afterward, without having time to go home to change.
This sweater matches your mood for the day, your desire to wear something that defines you that day, and your intuition. You “feel” good in it, you think that with this sweater, you will brave that meeting that intimidates you a bit. It remains to see if the other elements come together. To respect the dress codes of your company, you will compose around this statement piece a set of clothes and accessories that will enhance its presence. That is to say, pieces whose sobriety will allow the statement piece to express its full potential and thus highlight yours. In this case, sobriety will be necessary for the look to conform to the company’s codes. I mean that the originality of the sweater will be the only “eccentric” element of your outfit (except for personalities with an artistic or fashion style, who will know how to accurately associate several statement pieces). Surrounding it with basics will allow you to achieve your goal. Feel free without overdoing it. Stand out from your colleagues, because fundamentally, you want to stand out at the office without being noticed, being feminine, without generating thoughts at the office.
It remains to check if other constraints need to be taken into account.
Here, it will be necessary to add an accessory, like a very nice pair of high heels to swap in the evening for your derbies or elegant flats for the office (or heels will work perfectly all day, it depends on your feet and habits!) because you are going to dinner with friends. Another tip: Put a more spectacular or dressed necklace or earrings in your bag to complete your outfit.
The second method simply involves reversing the process.
You are in a less creative mood and are drawn to an outfit that suits you well but is a bit too classic, “uniform” style. Treat yourself, choose those comfortable pants whose cut flatters you, with that white blouse that goes with everything. Add your gray cardigan, mid-length, to form a very appropriate but unoriginal “basic” outfit. Then add your personal touch: for example, a pair of royal blue high heels or a very avant-garde pair with an exceptional pattern and colors that look so good on your face. A nice pair of classic earrings to finish it off and you’re done!
Example in this video:
Another example in this video:
More examples on my YouTube channel: https://relookingandqueen.com/tv/
3/Your intuition and your story
How does your intuition make you so unique and how to use it to better combine your outfits? In this part, I want to remind you that you have in your hands
A tool that allows you to always check that you are on the right path is your intuition.
Just last week, during a shopping trip with a client, several questions were asked of me after each fitting: what do you think? Which do you prefer between the two? What would you do for me? Of course, this remains a way to ask me for expert advice, and I give it with pleasure and as objectively as possible. Once this assessment is given, I help my client focus on what she really wants, to focus on her intuition. Deep down, only she knows.
Don’t give anyone the power to choose for you.
This friend who says “this is really what you need, I’m sure of it,” is nice, but it remains to be verified! Of course, not everyone does it this way, others know exactly what they want, and that’s perfectly fine too. I just think it’s necessary, regardless of the context, to question ourselves while being focused enough to simply make the right decision. This also applies when you are facing a sales assistant. “It suits you so well,” “this outfit was waiting for you,” “this kind of thing doesn’t suit everyone,” are often disguised sales tactics. Of course, the person facing you cannot always remain objective, unless they have known you for years and truly support your choices with heart and quality service, but that’s rather rare.
Another example:
Let’s imagine you have salt-and-pepper hair, coming from blonde color, blue eyes, and a very slightly tanned complexion. Let’s also imagine that your colorimetry reveals that blue is a color that brightens you and makes you divine. If in your personal story, blue reminds you of someone you don’t want to resemble, or if you’ve worn way too much blue at once and are disgusted with it, or your twin sister only wears blue and you want to stand out to highlight your unique side, all the colorimetries in the world can tell you the same thing, you won’t wear blue.
My job is therefore exercised by taking into account all the important details of your story, your feelings, such as those given as an example to compose together your ideal style.
4/How to manage others’ opinions and ensure that they do not determine your choices?
For nearly 9 years that I have been doing this work, each session reveals
Outside remarks that have helped to determine that person’s choices.
Example: “I never wear that dress because the only time I put it on, my best friend made fun of the color, she told me it didn’t suit me at all.” After a few questions, we often come to the conclusion that this dress matched exactly a desired style, but not yet assumed. Another example: “I no longer wear that sweater because my husband says I look like a little girl”; “Your outfit is not correct at all, what an idea those shoes.” My response in this case? “Compared to whom, according to what? Who is the outfit that doesn’t work?”
What really matters in your opinion?
Is it the opinion of others regarding your outfit? Do you think it’s possible to please everyone? It’s up to you to assert yourself, in everyone’s eyes, regarding your unique style, to impose it as obvious. And believe me, if you are sure of your choices, that you are aligned with your style, your surroundings will follow you. If you doubt or let others’ opinions take up too much space, you will give them the power to choose for you, and most of the time you won’t come out unscathed. So here are two simple ways to respond to a non-constructive remark about your appearance:
- To say stop and admit your emotion:
I would like you to never say that to me again, maybe it’s not seen, but it doesn’t make me happy when you say it.
- Get the other person to put themselves in your shoes:
Do you think it would make you happy if I said that kind of thing to you?
In conclusion, I invite you to practice, starting tomorrow, when preparing your outfit for the day, to step out of the beaten path and reinvent your assortments. When you go shopping, check the exercise as soon as you return to see which parts your new clothes match. You will feel much more creative right from the start of the day with your new clothes. For more info on shopping, read my latest shopping dossier here.
If after reading this article and testing at home, there remains a thorn in your side, contact me, we will carry out your image diagnosis, it’s free. My offers are precisely dedicated to supporting you throughout the process to make you completely autonomous… ensuring you a fully flourished and embraced style…
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